6 THINGS I WISH I HAD KNOWN
BEFORE MY WEDDING DAY!
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Hi guys, welcome back to my channel and I hope you are doing very well today on this very warm day. Although when you're watching this it'll probably rain because that normally happens when I say it's a nice day. It's always raining or not below day. Nevermind so obviously you guys will know from my blog that I uploaded very recently and if you follow me on social media, I am a married woman.
HE put a ring on it , in the words of Beyonce. And yeah, so I had my wedding I uploaded my wedding vlog if you haven't seen that, I'll leave the link to it below and I'll also leave a little clickable link at the end of this video as well.
And that's just like the lead up to my wedding and it's also a few little sneak peeks from the day as well. So if you want to go watch that head on over, but I did realize when I uploaded that there hadn't actually done a video on how my day went or any advice and tips I have on this day. And that is where this video comes into play.
So I thought I would do this video is something that I wish I had had before my wedding just to read through and really take it all in, but I didn't so I'm making it for you guys instead. So hopefully it will help some of you out there that are about to embark on the best day of your life because it really is the best day ever.
Take a"Wee" Little Break
Now a very important tip that I can give to all of my brides and Loki even to those of you that aren't brides yet, is to always figure out your venue, first as soon as you get engaged. I want you to start looking at venues because that will get booked up really fast, if you think about it.
Most girls have a year engagement. So, that means everybody has a year engagement, which means if you're in 2016, and you call your venue for a 2017 date, it could already be booked because all these brides that are looking a year out might be calling for the same dates as you.
So as soon as you get engaged start looking at venues, start going on tours, and we can decide as soon as possible. I mean low key even if you're not engaged might sound a little crazy but I would kind of just have a general idea of what you want. So in the big day does happen, you're ready. They always think your Pinterest wedding photos crazy until you get engaged and you're completely prepared.
Avoid Temptation to Not Eat Or Drink
Next advice especially for the morning, is if you are getting married at like half to like we did definitely eat and drink beforehand. And in terms of drinking, I don't necessarily mean get drunk. I do mean water. But obviously, a glass of champagne is quite nice to just calm the nerves as well.
But eating and drinking before you get married is very important even though you don't feel like you can eat or drink anything. Because if you're like me, you're quite nervous. I just can't eat when I'm nervous.
But I did manage to shove down a gluten-free sandwich and some water and it was very good because I didn't feel hungry. I didn't feel like I was gonna faint. And actually, we didn't have our mail until like five o'clock.
So by the time the whole day when I would have been starving by five o'clock so it's definitely important to remember to eat on the morning before your wedding.
Otherwise, you will be a fainting bride, and no one wants to be on YouTube as a fainting bride. Let me tell you that because someone in your crowd will get that on tape. Guaranteed.
Savor the Moment
So your next one is the aisle and actually my friend Sophie who is DIY Blonde on YouTube. She told me this bit of advice like way before I got married and it's something that's always stuck in my head. And I told myself so much that on my wedding day, I'll still remember to do it. And that is to walk slow.
Take your time and actually look around at your guests like you just think like, I don't look at anyone, but actually I looked up I looked around and I saw everyone smiling at me. Even though it made me a little bit emotional.
It was really nice to remember those kinds of certain faces that stuck out from the crowd. My little Nan. It's just really nice to kind of have a look around and see who was there basically. And obviously, I did look at Chris as well. But before I saw Chris, I did have a look around and enjoy and absorb everyone staring at me because that's all you can do really.
And if you are worried about walking fast down your aisle like I was I actually pre-warned my dad and that was Dad duty. So he was to tell me to slow down or slow me down physically even if he had to pull me back by my arms. And I did ask him if I walk too fast Dad, please can you slow me down and actually on my day, he whispered the words to me halfway down the hall. Slow down and we'll get you in the video so funny because we literally go so slow then and but it's just nice to be reminded and have someone else on the watch. And if he's got to do it with you. He has to know something you might as well tell you to slow down so definitely walk it's like absorb it because it goes so quickly. Like that is the quickest part of the day by far so yeah.
Take it all in enjoy it even if you're nervous enjoy it because it's actually really nice. Like it's a really weird feeling. But it's really really nice. Although it does feel like your bridesmaids are being thrown to the sharks because you kind of see like, one by one them disappearing. It's a very odd feeling. But yeah, definitely take it in.
Hire a Professional for Wedding Photos & Video
So then I have a little tip if you are slightly confused whether you want a photographer and whether you want to have your wedding videos, I would 100% say yes to both get a professional photographer to photograph your day. You don't want to rely on people in the crowd taking photos because even though they're nice as a little kind of pre-kind of viewing thing before you actually get your wedding photos.
They're never as good. They're never the same as their iPhone, you can't zoom in there too bad quality. You can't even get them printed. And so I would definitely say hire a photographer more foremost, if anything, that's the most important part of your day is to have some photos because when it's all over, that's kind of all you've got to look back at it and it's really really important. Like that's one thing that I look at daily now. Daily on repeat I've got my photos there.
I would also recommend getting your wedding video as well, which isn't something I ever thought I'd say I wasn't really that keen on it to begin with. Luckily, my friend Sophie offered to film because she does that kind of as a sideline job as well. So we were really lucky that she has the skills to film our wedding and I'm so glad that I've got the wedding video to come like it's so nice that she's going to be able to pick up on things that I might have forgotten about or that I've missed and I'll have all the speeches and stuff. It's just so special to have a video of your day.
Obviously a video can be just as expensive as a photographer. And so if you are slightly worried about how much it's going to cost, go and buy a video camera. You can buy a little compact camera for 500 pound now, which or even less actually, I think they do them for less and ask one of your friends or your brother or sister film the day and I think as long as you've got something it's still something from your day like we've got a few like iPhone photo videos to keep us going and it's so nice to have just something as a reminder of your day because you do forget all of the details. So I think that is super important
So if you are having group shots, we had a few done, and they, obviously, involve immediate family, friends, everything you want you, obviously, discussed that with your photographer prior to your wedding. But it's a really good idea to pre-warn your ushers (groomsmen or bridesmaids) and have them on group shop duty.
We were so lucky with two of our ushers (groomsmen), they took control of the group shots completely we'd shout that we needed one person. And that person would be there they would have found them no matter where they were.
And so it's definitely important to kind of set that job for someone during the day so that your photographer wouldn't have to be shouting. You don't have to get stressed out and you definitely don't want to be standing there waiting for group shots because it takes away your time from your day and socializing with your guests.
So I have the ushers on a group shot duty and make sure they're good at it. Otherwise, they're gonna get sacked because ours were really good but I've seen weddings where they're awful. So get in training, get them in training.
Escape for a Few Minutes With Your New Spouse
For your bride and groom portraits. I would advise going off for a little walk together somewhere away from the crowd if you can. If your venue has like little secret places where you can go and have your photos taken then try and get there. Your photographer will probably do a scout of the day and if you mentioned this to them, I'm sure they can find somewhere nice that will be nice for your photos.
I really like the fact that we got to spend some time together away from everyone. We went to this little, like woodland area which was literally like on the site. So we were really lucky. No one could interrupt us no good talk to us. We just had time together and a little smooch and our photographer was with us snapping away. And it's actually my favorite part of the day.
I think it was really nice just to have some time together and talk about the day just have a bit of a laugh and not be bothered by everyone and kind of pulled away. Because obviously, people want to talk to you. And but yeah, it's good to just escape for a little while.
So I'd definitely mention that to your photographer. If you like the idea of having a bit of time together after you get married. Because you don't really see each other a lot on your wedding day which is quite ironic really
Next up is more of an evening tip and I would say that it is so much fun to have a wedding band. And I might be a bit biased on this because Chris is in a wedding band he's in a band called Jupiter Ray. And they are actually really good.
That's how we met because I went to all escapes like a groupie, although I wasn't a group here just the band. That felt really bad.
There's just something really special about having a wedding band and if it's something that you can afford and you can pay a little bit of money for definitely, definitely look into it because it creates such a nice atmosphere. And it's just a little bit like special for your day.
You kind of feel like the band are playing for you and it's really nice feeling so I would definitely recommend get in a rocking band
It's Best To Flip -Flop
For the evening, a really good tip that I literally it was the best thing ever ....is to have a basket of flip flops for all of the girl guests, actually so the guys, are wearing them as well, so actually, guys can wear them, to maybe get some guy collars.
And yeah flip flops on the evening all the women had their shoes off the flip flops are on and then they want to dance I think the number one thing that prevents women from dancing at a wedding in the air is sore feet.
So if you provide shoes that are comfy, they can't use that excuse and that's something that we've done really well. I've seen it done at weddings before including my friend's weddings.
And I remember just thinking it was the best thing ever. So we definitely made sure we had enough actually I think we had more flip flops and we had guests but they can take them home with them. It's fine.
But yeah, go to Primark Primark and flip flops on 90 P sometimes pick up like 30 of them, put them in a basket and you're good to go. And it makes people dance because their shoes don't hurt anymore. So definitely recommend that
Hash It Out
And then the last little tip I have for you, that we did on the day, is set up a hashtag. Obviously. now we are in a world of social media. People would take photos to upload to their Instagrams and Twitter's their Facebook's and of course, you want to be able to see those the next day it's really nice to go on Instagram and be able to kind of scroll through photos from your day, even if it's not of you, even if it's your guests, or little details of the day like I really enjoyed doing that.
And it made it so much easier to have a hashtag because everyone would then use the hashtag and all their photos will be collectively put into one place. So I bought these little cards from on I think eBay or something where you could write the hashtag in or you can put it on your invites or get your ashes to tell people there's loads different ways you could do it, but I definitely recommend it if you're not worried about photos going on social media.
It was definitely something that I was really pleased we did and after the wedding, you can also set up a Facebook group where everyone that was involved in the wedding can privately upload their photos so you're not going to have everyone being able to see them.
Something we did. It's very private, and only the people at the wedding can see all of the photos and videos and it's a really good way of like encouraging people to upload every single photo.
So guys, I think that's it for now. I didn't want to blabber on too long, but those are the main things that I've been writing down over the last couple of weeks. It's been married.
Obviously I've got so much more to talk about with the wedding and and I will be doing that over my vlogs like I mentioned, but if there's anything that you'd like to see videos on, if you'd like to see videos on kind of styling bridesmaids, or how to do makeup or wedding hairstyles, and let me know in the comments below because I'd love to know what you guys want to see because that well that's the whole point isn't it? You guys watch these videos so let me know what kind of stuff you would like to see or hear about.
And yeah, I'll make some videos on them because I'm so happy I can find your talk about my wedding and tell you guys all the little details of the day.
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