Jaime Wolfer Gives Another Super Practical & Insightful Video for Planning Your Wedding
Transcript and Notes
Hello Lovely Humans, and welcome back to my channel if you are watching this on wedding chicks are over on Facebook. Thank you so much for stopping by. I feel like I'm harnessing my inner Sandy from Greece I was totally binge watching Desi Perkins earlier today and so we're going a little dramatic with the face. That's okay. There are so many things to remember for your wedding day. Like so many things and that's where planner comes in handy. But for those of you who don't have a long term planner to help you remember all of these items. I compile a list of course because that's what I do have 25, most commonly forgotten items on your wedding day.
And these are ones that literally almost every single couple forgets, at least one of these, I definitely forgot a couple of you on my wedding day. Hopefully this this will be really helpful for you to remember what you're not supposed to forget, which is exactly what remembering means very good at this. These items are in no particular order because I didn't take the time to put them in an order but if you're a note taker, grab a pen, grab a paper and start jotting some this stuff down, you know, take care, like this video so you know you can remember and come back to it when it gets really close your wedding day so you remember to not forget these items, without further ado, 25 commonly forgotten things for your wedding day.
Ice, if you are putting together a DIY bar, or if your bartenders don't provide it for you or your venue doesn't provide it for you. You will need a ton of ice. Time for ice would be one pound per person and then you may need to increase that to one and a half pounds if you're having an outdoor summer event because obviously ice, a lot faster.
#2 How To Bustle Your Dress,
a bustling video. How's the player. This is something that I try to remember to ask my clients for the bustling takes a long time to, even if you have your maid of honor or your mom or someone else present at the last dress fitting, and they learn how to do it having a video on the end is extremely helpful in case we can't find your maid of honor or your mom, or they forget how to do it.
#3 Feed Yourself
food, feed yourself please as networking as your big day is going to be it, you need to feed yourself. One of the last things you want to do is pass out at the altar, like that's not a cute look for anybody lying on the floor, when you're supposed to be getting pitched. And within that make sure your bridal party has enough food to, you can assign that task to your mom to an ant, make sure fresh food shows up on site, and make sure you actually eat it, you'll be very busy throughout the day, you'll be on your feet for a majority of it, and your immediate every single calorie.
#4 Bring Flats for Your Footsies
#5 Don’t Forget Your Emergency Kit
emergency kit. A lot of people are pretty good at putting this together but you do need to sit down and come up with all the items that you need makeup for touch ups safety pins, I'm not gonna even continuous items off, I actually did a what's in my bag video recently with all the stuff in my emergency kit and recommended a few for you along the way, I'll do my best to link that in the description box below. Sometimes I forget. But it's not just up on my channel and go ahead and find it have an emergency kit prepare for your wedding day and assign someone to be in charge of it so they know where it is at all times.
#6 An Overnight Bag
an overnight bag. This may sound kind of silly, but I forgot my overnight bag. Don't do that. And make sure it gets to the hotel, make sure it's in your getaway vehicle, or already in your hotel room, so you don't have to worry about grabbing that before you do your grant accent number seven, cash and ID cards. I recently heard a story where a couple was not allowed to go into their honeymoon suite, because the groom didn't have his ID on him. So they are turned away at like two in the morning, or whatever and they couldn't go to the hotel room because he didn't have his identification on him, I can understand the hotels perspective, they can't just let anybody into a room, have your identification ready, just in case because you never know where the night might lead and you never know when you need to happen on you.
#8 Vendor Tips
If you're doing tips, I highly recommend that you have the envelopes with the name of the company on the front of the envelope and give that to a designated person to pass them out for you have that plan out ahead of time so you're not scrambling last minute trying to find all of the money or get all of the cash overnight.
Water hydrate yourself. In fact, start hydrating a few days beforehand. It helps your skin to be clearer and more refreshed and you will be able to handle the marathon that is your wonderful wedding day. Sure. If you're wearing a big elaborate dress, it may make it a little bit harder to go the bathroom, but you'd rather be hydrated and go bathroom all the time, then pass out, because again, face planning on the ground not cute and pretend,
so many people forget transportation and that's not just when you leave the reception in some sort of grant vehicle that's from the getting ready location to the ceremony location from the ceremony location to the reception and from the reception to wherever you're leaving for the rest of the night, and it's not just you, that needs to figure that out. It's your entire bridal party, whether we have Uber and lift those can be called on last minute just in case you do forget, but I do recommend that you have some sort of transportation schedule or vehicle worked out in your mind, you can mob on over to the ceremony and your maid of honors car that's perfectly fine. Just make sure you think through those details beforehand. So you're not stranded in your wedding dress.
#11 Reserved Seating
reserved seating signs for your family at the ceremony. Luckily we don't run into this too often where people take the first two rows, but every once in a while there's that one random person who's clearly never been to a wedding in their entire life, and they sit in the second row or in the front row, thinking that that's the spot for them and it's not so having reserve size to make sure those aisles are clearly marked and no one sits in them is really important
#12 Photo Wrangler
a photo Wrangler designate one person from the bright side of the family and the grim side of family to make sure all of the photos happen without a hitch, your photographer is there to capture the moment, they're not necessarily there to scream at everyone to get in or out of the photo so if you select a Wrangler from the right side and the group side that knows everyone, they can talk and Sue on the shoulder when she's getting chatting with her niece and say hey, you're supposed to be in this photo, they know who everyone is whereas the photographer's just yelling James off of the list. So when you designate a photo regular that family photo Time goes so much more quickly, which means you get to the party sooner.
Vendor overtime, it's always a good idea to have a clear event and time however, every once in a while, it is a requirement for vendors to stay leader that is on their contract or last minute if you decide that you want to tack on an extra hour photography, make sure you know what that amount is before you do that because you do not want to get spanked with a $700 fee that you were not anticipating
#14 Vendor Meals
Coming from someone who will be at your event for eight plus hours, please do not forget vendor meal. Most vendors have this within their contract if they required to be fed but make sure your caterer knows that's not just your guest count that needs to be fed, but the additional vendors as well. Please feed us. Please feed us.
#15 Music Selection
Music selection with a professional DJ This is much less of a concern because they're pretty good about asking all the questions but in case your DIY in your music, or you've pushed everything to last minute, that could be very stressful on your wedding day when someone's running up to you and being like hey we're about to do the bouquet toss what song Am I supposed to play. You got plenty of time, start making a playlist on Spotify or an Apple Music and select out all of the songs that you want played for the perfunctory moments father daughter dance mother son dance first dance processional recessional blah blah blah blah blah having those all organized ahead of time means that you're not getting mugged on your wedding day. and just enjoying
#16 Marriage License
your marriage license you need to carve out time to sign it and you need to make sure someone is in charge of handling that it's a legally binding document and it's very, very important so find someone that you trust to make sure that that is in safe hands, so it can be mailed out properly later there were
#17 Gift Wrangler
gift Wrangler and the vehicle It's going into for the most part, wedding guests shouldn't be bringing too many gifts but if you do get a bunch of gifts you need a car for them to go home in, and if you're leaving in an Uber or in a hired car, then you don't necessarily want to take all the gifts with you to the hotel or to wherever you're staying. And that to figure out what you're going to do with them before you enter your honeymoon. So figure out who's in charge of taking those gifts and what currently going into and how they will get back to you afterwards, oftentimes we recommend one of the parents will put it into their vehicle and then the couple can just get it from them after the honeymoon.
# 18 Wedding Accessories
cake topper cake server cake night, and Champagne toasting glasses. If you have any desire to have those things make sure you have those things. I know it sounds dumb, but we totally forgot a cake knife and a cake server, we had to cut our cake with a plastic butter knife. And it was not very easy it was hilarious. It was a great moment, but it was hard, it was just not as fancy as using the cake night, and the server so if you want those items make sure they are packed up and ready to go to the venue, and that your coordinator or planner knows where they are so they can set them out and be ready for cake cutting time.
# 19 Guestbook
guestbook, hence I don't know why but guess book ends get forgotten all the time. All the time. That's why I carry spare ones in my emergency kit. If you want a special pen, if you need something that writes on a specific kind of paper, or globe, or piece of wood, you need to have pens for that, and plenty of them.
#20 DIY Checklist
a list of personal or DIY items, and where they go. If you are bringing table numbers, escort cards, any sort of signage, you've created yourself or someone has created for you but you're in charge of bringing to the wedding. There needs to be a list of those items as a planner, I will go through those items and make sure they are placed exactly where you've asked me to place them. And I will also use that list as our tear down sheet to make sure that we gather all of those things and likely put them in the same vehicle that the gifts are going home and speaking of taking items afterwards
#21 Teardown Crew
a tear down crew. This is one of the most overlooked items for your wedding day read over your contracts very carefully, make sure you have someone to bust the tables to pick up trash to gather all of your belongings to take down any streetlights that you've hung up to remove florals from arbors if the venue requires it and don't do that Angel classic well people are there I'm sure they'll help out because sometimes they don't. Sometimes I do but sometimes they don't make sure you have a teardown crew and make sure they know that they're doing it, don't just tell your coordinator like, Ah, yeah people don't know don't do it don't do it, and not tell them that they're doing it.
#22 Eyelash Glue.
I personally just found this out recently but eyelash glue is water soluble so if you start crying and those little spider legs start popping off your eyeball. You're gonna look real wacky, you could potentially lose your lashes. And if that's an important part of your wedding Look, you're going to want to make sure that they stay there so have an eyelash glue on you, or try to go for more like the individual lashes so in case you lose one or two it doesn't affect your overall look
# 23 Invitation Suite for Photos.
If you want your invitations to be a part of your wedding photography, you need to, obviously, make sure that you bring that, and that includes all the elements and envelope with a fake name and a fake address on it don't mean calligraphy is beautiful invitation RSVP card
#24 Designate a point person
like, this is where coordinator comes in handy. This is where you have to have to have to have a coordinator or a point person so no one's coming up to you and asking questions when you're in the middle of your first dance not that anybody would do that but you know to me designate someone that has all of the contact information for all of your vendors knows your day of timeline and knows where all of your stuff is, that is your point person, they should handle all of the chaos behind the scenes, so you can enjoy your wedding day. guys. You know how I feel about this. That's where you need a coordinator. You can't afford one you still need to designate someone to be in charge of those items and
#25 Pause, Breathe, Observe, and Repeat
this is your wedding day. This is the opening day that you're going to have like this day So take a moment at the back of the aisle before you walk down, look at all the guests there during dinner stop eating for just a second, even though it's very important that you eat, and look around at all of the wonderful loving people that have surrounded you remember to take the time to remember. Wow that got real deep towards the end there folks. That's all we have for today folks I hope you found this was helpful. I hope it helps you to remember to not forget, and if you haven't subscribed already, scoot on down there, hit the subscribe button, tap the bell to get notifications every time I upload a video, as always, a huge shout out to my gal pals over at wedding chicks for hosting this video and until next week. Bye guys.
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